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Be Right With One Another

Think about the words you most regret saying. What prompted them? Chances are, they were rooted in a desire to be right. You might even be honest enough to say you wanted to win the argument. But have you ever considered that it’s possible to right someone else right out of your life?
Philippians 2:3-4 ESVDo nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Rather than being right at one another, God wants us to be right with one another.
How do we know this? Jesus was killed on a cross for a crime he didn’t commit. Jesus, who could have been right—who could have demanded what he deserved—instead valued us above himself. He didn’t correct the false accusations. He didn’t insist on his rightness. Jesus didn’t come to be right. He came to reconcile us to God and to one another.
So, he says to us: Quit being right at one another and figure out how to get right with one another. Because if the two of you aren’t right, it doesn’t matter who’s right.
Proverbs 17:14 ESVThe beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out.
Here are two questions that will make it practical:
In what area of your life do you need to get to work on being right with someone? Perhaps this relates to words you tend to speak in anger, sarcasm, criticism, or bitterness. These words could be spoken anonymously, directed at a specific person, or pointed at yourself.
The second question is more painful, but it’s the driving force behind watching your words.
Who hopes you’ll get to work soon? Maybe it’s your spouse, son, daughter, co-worker, or neighbor. It might even be someone you interact with online or on social media.
Is there someone you need to work to be right with today? It’s time to get to work.

It Makes Sense to Them

From Me & My Big Mouth by North Point Ministries on YouVersion
Colossians 4:5-6 ESVWalk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time. Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.
Here’s something that’s obvious but often overlooked: Everything everyone does makes sense to them. The neighbor you think mows their lawn the wrong way? They don’t agree. That co-worker who offered an opinion that opposed yours? They did so for a reason. We may not understand their motives or actions, but the people around us are operating in ways that make sense to them.
When we don’t take time to understand others’ viewpoints, we rush to hasty, destructive conclusions that often manifest in words we later regret: “That makes no sense.” “They’re so stupid.” “How could anyone believe that?” Unfortunately, we often say these things behind the person’s back. We post our opinions online or share them with a friend, not even giving our target the opportunity to respond.
That’s not what God intended. Your words are your responsibility. If there’s something you don’t agree with or don’t understand, ask questions. The goal isn’t to align with the other person. The goal is to honor them. You don’t have to agree, but you should maintain a posture of respect.
2 Timothy 2:23-26 ESVHave nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.
What’s one area where you are quick to judge? It could be a political view, a religious practice, or a lifestyle choice. Whose viewpoint are you quick to excuse as errant or foolish? Try asking questions. Seek to understand. It might save you from words you’ll regret. 

Quick to Listen Slow to Speak

From Me & My Big Mouth by North Point Ministries on YouVersion
Open mouth . . . insert foot. Have you ever been there? You started to talk and quickly wished you could stuff the words back in. Or perhaps you’ve been the recipient of someone else’s foot-in-mouth moment. If so, you’ve likely felt the hurt of misspoken words.
James 1:19-21 ESVKnow this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. Therefore put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.
As we know from James’ instruction to “be quick to listen, slow to speak,” we all have the ability to hit pause. What we don’t have the ability to do is rewind. Once our words are out there, they can’t be taken back.
When we’re under pressure, angry, or in a hurry, it can be easy to let the wrong words come out or to say the right words at the wrong time. We’re typically quick to speak, slow to listen—the exact opposite of James’ advice!
But by pausing before speaking, we put the needs of others ahead of our own. We give them the opportunity to express their opinions or tell their side of the story.
Proverbs 13:3 ESVWhoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.
Today, look for opportunities to give others the chance to talk first. Rather than listening in order to reply, try James’ advice—flip the script and be “quick to listen, slow to speak” instead.

Let Us Consider

From Speaking Life in Your Marriage on YouVersion
Hebrews 10:24 NASB1995and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds,
Today let’s ponder the instruction from Hebrews 10 to “consider how to stir up one another to love and good works.” This is a call to action for us to help motivate one another toward living righteous, Kingdom-minded lives.
Proverbs 25:11 NASB1995Like apples of gold in settings of silver Is a word spoken in right circumstances.
Proverbs 16:24 NASB1995Pleasant words are a honeycomb, Sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.
Our words can call out the best or the worst in a person. When we take the proactive step of studying ways to use our words, Proverbs 25 and 16 tell us that kind and well timed words are “sweet to the soul and healthy to the body,” and “like apples of gold.”
Proverbs 15:28 NASB1995The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, But the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.
Have you ever gotten a compliment or encouragement that stuck with you? Or maybe you remember a harsh word that was spoken to you long ago. Words that speak to the good someone sees in us can encourage us in our growth and help us see what God has done and is doing in our lives. They can call us up to grow into all He has for us. In your marriage, be the one to notice and call out the good in your spouse. Speak to what you see God doing in them, the good you see in them, and the way they impact the world around you.
Praying for your spouse is a great way to use your words to build them up, while growing together in spiritual intimacy. Praying for someone else helps us to see them through God’s eyes and be attuned to what He is doing in and through them. Where do you need to see God move in your lives? What do you hope He will do in your lives, or the life of someone around you? You can pray together silently, together verbally, or on your own.
Another fun way to use the life-giving power of words is to encourage others together. Make a point to notice the good things you see in your family members, kids, and community, then speak to them. Find ways to speak life to others together. Being a couple who speaks life to others will be life-giving to the two of you, and to those that you encourage.
Next Steps:
Ask your spouse how you can pray for them, then do it.
Speak life to others: Who can you encourage together? Who has encouraged you that you can thank?
Resource:
Love Cans Printable
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A Reflection of the Heart

Proverbs 4:23 NASB1995Watch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life.
God’s transformation is not to change our words or actions, but to change our heart. The words we say flow out of what is in our hearts and on our minds. What enters through our eyes and ears takes root in our mind and shapes our heart. The things we pour in and meditate on will certainly show up in our words and actions.
We live in a fallen world, and the culture around us is saturated and overflowing with words; many of them unhelpful. Feeding our minds on a diet of news, talk shows, opinion pieces or rants will make it very difficult to speak life-giving, encouraging words. Things that keep our minds on earthly things do not bring heavenly perspective or bear godly fruit.
Proverbs 18:2 NASB1995A fool does not delight in understanding, But only in revealing his own mind.
Likewise, meditating on Scripture shapes our mindset and teaches us to filter our thoughts through the lens of God’s eternal perspective. Scripture is God’s story; teaching us His character, His ways and His purposes. When we keep Him and His Word in the forefront of our mind, this, too, will shape our heart.
When God has redeemed your heart through salvation, He will also sanctify to make you more like Him. We invite this transformation when we seek Him in the Word and in prayer.
Philippians 4:8 NASB1995Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.
Today, consider what your mind is taking in. Consider the impact of the content that you see and hear. The repeated thoughts, worries or fears that linger in your mind are meditations. If you want to start making a change, recognize when one negative train of thought enters your mind and decide that you will not let it become your focus. Read Scripture aloud to replace the negative thought. Ask God to help you purify your thoughts and to make the words of your mouth and the meditations of your heart pleasing to Him. He will answer.
Psalms 19:14 NASB1995Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart Be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my rock and my Redeemer.
Next Steps:
Pray Psalm 19:14
Filter what influences you. Is there anything you’re watching or listening to that you know does not yield godly fruit?
Write down one scripture to meditate on to replace an unhealthy thought pattern.

Speaking Helpful Words

From Speaking Life in Your Marriage on YouVersion
Ephesians 4:29 NASB1995Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.
Proverbs 10:32 NASB1995The lips of the righteous bring forth what is acceptable, But the mouth of the wicked what is perverted.
Scripture says it like this: “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful , so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them” (Ephesians 4:29) and “The lips of the godly speak helpful words, but the mouth of the wicked speaks perverse words.” (Proverbs 10:32).
There are two sides to this. First, we are to put away any unkind, rude, foul or hurtful speech. And then, beyond avoiding the negative, we have a great opportunity to use our words for good! I love that these verses give a picture of the good that our words can bring. They can be an instrument of encouragement and love. Our kind and gentle words reflect the image of God’s love, and when our marriage reflects Him, we experience joy and peace while giving Him glory!
Let’s be proactive today as we use our words to encourage and help others.
Today, I want to challenge you to seize those helpful words and share them. Don’t neglect the simple gift of speaking life into your spouse, friends, family, and the marriages around you.
Next Steps:
Do you have a friend whose marriage encourages you? Encourage them by saying so today!
Tell your spouse one way you have seen them growing, and encourage them in what you’ve seen God do in them.

Repent and Confess

From Speaking Life in Your Marriage on YouVersion
James 3:7-11 NASB1995For every species of beasts and birds, of reptiles and creatures of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by the human race. But no one can tame the tongue; it is a restless evil and full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the likeness of God; from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be this way. Does a fountain send out from the same opening both fresh and bitter water?
Have you used words to tear down, nag, or criticize? Do you tend to be sarcastic or quick tempered? Or have you withheld words that should have been spoken? Have you hidden your hurts from your spouse, or held a grudge when you felt hurt rather than being honest about the breach in your relationship?
I doubt there’s anyone among us who can say they have never done any of those! James 3 is clear that “no one can control the tongue,” which is something we can all probably recognize in our own lives. Some couples have said that their most bitter fights happen on the way to church, where they then sit down together and stand to praise God through their tense lips. What a vivid image of when “blessing and cursing come pouring out of the same mouth”!
Lamentations 3:40 NASB1995Let us examine and probe our ways, And let us return to the Lord.
Today, start with humility before God. Ask the Holy Spirit for conviction. Ask Him to reveal where you sinned with your words this week. Then confess and repent of what He brings to mind.
Confess and apologize to your spouse for using your words to hurt. Repent of not being honest about the things you need to communicate. Confess, then let go of any grudges, past hurts or bitterness. Ask your spouse for forgiveness. Acknowledge that you want to move forward in a new way and to follow the instructions of Ephesians 4 to get rid of harsh words and be kind, tenderhearted and forgiving.
It is not easy to apologize or confess, but that is where healing begins. We are fallen humans on the road to growing more like Christ, but we are not there yet! We will need to repent, confess and apologize on a regular basis. When we do, He is faithful to forgive us. And we can forgive freely, as God in Christ has freely forgiven us.
Ephesians 4:31-32 NASB1995Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.
Next Steps:
Pray, asking God for conviction
Respond to His conviction with repentance and confession
Apologize to your spouse for words you’ve said that hurt them.

Power of Words

From Speaking Life in Your Marriage on YouVersion
John 1:1 NASB1995In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
The words we speak have more power than we realize. Words matter. John 1:1 refers to Jesus as “the Word,” and Genesis tells us that it was through the power of His words that God created the heavens, the earth, and all created things. The Bible itself is referred to as God’s Word. Words have great power.
Proverbs 18:21 NASB1995Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.
Of all created things, humankind alone – created in the image of God – was given the ability to speak. So through our words, we have the capacity to reflect the image of God’s life-giving nature, or to hurt and destroy. We have the choice to “bring life or death.” Often we speak without thinking. We speak without intentionality. We air our thoughts and opinions without considering their impact. When we do, we miss out on using words to encourage and build up those around us.
In marriage, our spouse can easily be taken for granted because we are around them so much. The daily interactions can become routine and we neglect times that we could use to share encouragement and appreciation. So today, think of one good thing you might be taking for granted about your spouse, and say it. Use the power of your words to build them up today.
Next Steps:
Consider that words are a God-given gift, not to be taken for granted.
DO NOT say the unhelpful things you think
DO say the helpful / kind / encouraging things you think.

Known and Held

Do you ever feel unseen?
Like no one truly gets what you’re going through, or worse, that God might be distant from your pain? Maybe you’re carrying unspoken hurts—broken friendships, betrayals, rejection, or even disappointment in yourself. It’s hard to face those deep aches, and sometimes, it feels like no one understands.
I know this feeling all too well. There have been seasons in my life where I felt abandoned, forgotten, and misunderstood. I’ve wrestled with feelings of loneliness after friendships fell apart or trust was betrayed. I’ve struggled with self-doubt after harsh accusations and sank into discouragement when life seemed overwhelming.
But in the midst of all that, I’ve learned one of the most comforting truths: Even when you feel unseen, God’s love for you is unchanging and ever-present.
Romans 8:35-39 NASB1995Who will separate us from the love of Christ? Will tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? Just as it is written, “For Your sake we are being put to death all day long; We were considered as sheep to be slaughtered.” But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
When we’re hurting, we often feel as if no one notices—especially God. Yet God’s love doesn’t hinge on our circumstances or our worthiness. It’s constant, tender, and real. His love is near, as close as your next breath.
No matter where you are or what you’ve experienced, God sees you. And He understands your heart, not from a distance, but from a place of intimate care. In your loneliness, in your brokenness, in your doubt, He is present.
Jeremiah 31:3 NASB1995The Lord appeared to him from afar, saying, “I have loved you with an everlasting love; Therefore I have drawn you with lovingkindness.
I remember a season when I struggled with deep feelings of rejection and loneliness, especially while starting a new chapter in my personal and professional life. I was overwhelmed, questioning whether I was truly seen, and unsure if I could keep moving forward.
During that time, I felt God gently whisper to my heart, “You are not alone. I see you. I know your heart. And I love you.” It wasn’t a loud, dramatic declaration. It was His quiet, consistent presence that reminded me I wasn’t forgotten, even when I felt invisible.
Psalms 34:18 NASB1995The Lord is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit.
God’s love isn’t a distant, abstract concept—it’s personal.
It meets us where we are, with tenderness and understanding. God’s heart for you is full of compassion, and His love speaks to your deepest needs: “I see you. I understand you. You are loved, you are valued, and you belong.”
Today, if you’re feeling invisible or disconnected, take a moment to pause and let God meet you where you are.
Ephesians 3:19-20 NASB1995and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us,
You don’t need to hide or pretend. Bring Him your brokenness and your longing. He isn’t distant or indifferent—He draws near, inviting you to rest in the truth that you are seen, known, and deeply loved by Him.
As you pray, use this breath prayer to slow down and open your heart to God’s more-than-we-can-ask-or-imagine love.
Inhale: God fill me todayExhale: With Your love
God fill me today with Your love.
Let His love fill the spaces where you feel forgotten. Breathe in the truth that you are known and held by the God who sees you fully.
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Prince of Peace

Life can feel overwhelming—appointments, deadlines, endless to-do lists, and expectations pulling you in every direction.
It’s easy to get caught in the rush, feeling like you’re always chasing something just out of reach. And when everything feels like it’s speeding up, it’s hard to catch your breath, let alone experience peace. But no matter how chaotic life becomes, there’s one thing that remains unshaken: God’s peace.
Isaiah 9:6 NASB1995For a child will be born to us, a son will be given to us; And the government will rest on His shoulders; And His name will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Eternal Father, Prince of Peace.
We often think peace is something we have to search for, something we must earn, or something that will appear when our circumstances are just right. But God’s peace is already here. He’s waiting to surround you with it, ready to calm your restless heart—if you’ll let Him.
Peace isn’t the absence of problems; it’s the presence of God right in the middle of them.
When your mind is racing, when your heart is heavy, and when you feel stretched too thin, God’s peace is the thing that you need most. The kind of peace that doesn’t depend on your circumstances, but on His constant, unwavering presence. When you pause and invite Him into your day with every breath, you allow His peace to settle deep within you. It’s not something you have to earn or create—it’s something you receive from Him.
When anxiety tightens its grip and worry creeps in, come back to this prayer. Let each inhale remind you of His love and presence, and each exhale releases the burdens that weigh you down.
Isaiah 26:3 NASB1995The steadfast of mind You will keep in perfect peace, Because he trusts in You.
Take a moment to pause and reflect:
What would God’s peace feel like to you in your current circumstances?
What fears or anxieties are holding you hostage?
How can you create space for God’s peace right now?
You don’t need a perfect moment—just a moment to pause and surrender to God.
Breathe in the peace He freely offers, and breathe out the tension, fear, or worry that tries to steal it away.
Philippians 4:7 NASB1995And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Also, you don’t have to do this alone.
There’s something special about worshiping together—about singing praises with others. Singing in unison with others can literally help align your breathing and heart rate. Studies show that when we sing together, our bodies sync up, creating a sense of unity and peace.
John 14:27 NASB1995Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful.
If you find yourself anxious, try attending a worship service and singing with fellow believers. Focus your attention on God and use your breath to keep your attention there as you join your voice with others echoing His praise.
But remember, you don’t have to wait until the next service to experience God’s peace. Let’s take a moment to pray together.
Inhale deeply, taking your attention away from all the noise and needs and clamoring circumstances. As you exhale, release your burdens and anxieties out with your breath. Let your chest and head and shoulders relax.
With the next breath, let’s pray.
Inhale: I receive Your peaceExhale: To guard my heart and mind
I receive Your peace, to guard my heart and mind.
Repeat these words with each breath. Let His peace fill you and guard you, knowing that in every moment of surrender, your Prince of Peace is with you, ready to calm your heart and guide your steps.
Now that you’re experiencing more of His peace, let’s move into a deeper connection where God’s love fills the very core of who you are. Get ready for tomorrow!